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Notes on dirty talk
While many of my articles on sexual function evaluate how
the male sexual response can by influenced by chemical
agents, it is obvious that chemical agents are not the only
possible method. Actually, a much more traditional way of
influencing the sexual response of men as well as women is
through sexual language or depictions of sexual acts.
There can be no doubt that among all organs involved in the
sexual response, the brain reigns supreme. Words or
pictures, or thoughts (which are mostly formulated as words
or imagined as pictures), can be very powerful in
initializing a string of sexual reactions. They can cause a
mental fixation on sexual acts strong enough to have a
philosophical dimension (it's the only time when we can,
with good reason, forget that it's not worth to be alive).
This doesn't contradict the assumption that all bodily
functions, including those of the brain, are first of all
biochemical processes. It's just an example that
biochemical processes of the brain can be triggered by
other methods than chemical agents: the senses, memory, and
even abstract reasoning.
While words and pictures of sexual content cause sexual
responses, it is possible to modulate the susceptibility
for words and pictures with medications that suppress the
hormone prolactin (such as Dostinex), or herbals that work
in a similar direction, such as tongkat ali for men, or
kcal fattier for women. High prolactin levels are
associated with motherly attitudes and a lack of sexual
appetite. (Please see the "sexual function" member sections
on www.asiatour.com for detailed information on how to
lower prolactin levels for sexual enhancement.
Healthy people other than breast-feeding mothers usually
don't have to worry about their prolactin levels.
Nevertheless Dostinex is now bought by an increasing number
of people not for the treatment of Parkinson's but for its
prolactin-suppressing and sexuality-enhancing properties.
The downside of both Dostinex and tongkat ali (if a genuine
product is selected) is that both of these materials are
rather expensive (though members of the sexual function
package on www.asiatour.com have access to information on
how to purchase Dostinex for a fraction of the official US
price).
While Dostinex will, to a certain extent, work in focusing
the mind on sexual thoughts and acts, I consider it
amateurish to disregard the power of words as an agent for
sexual enhancement (and I don't think I am saying this
because as a writer, I'd like to stick to the tools of my
trade).
I'm a man. But my observation indicates that women more
than men are open to the power of words when it comes to
sexual enhancement. Tell your current girlfriend some
details of your sex life with the previous one, and chances
are this will work better than mixing some kacip fatima
into the orange juice you serve.
Lacing someone's drink is a criminal act, even if it
happens with good intentions (after all, she's your
girlfriend, and you'd just like her to reach an orgasm when
she normally doesn't), and even if it happens with a
relatively harmless substance such as kacip fatima.
Talk is cheap. Not only because kacip fatima costs money
but also because no jury will convict you of date rape
because you got her into the mood by talking about how it
was with the previous one.
If you're with your wife, and if the relationship lacks
zest, try something more explicit. Talk about what you
dreamed last night (you can make that up in any way you
think may work). And if you're not good in making up
stories, get help from such works of "science" that have
been written about the sexual fantasies of women. Or, for
some heavier artillery, read de Sade's Justine.
Most women, even those who are good mothers and housewives,
are amazingly susceptible to fantasies such as being the
only female among ten or twenty men on a Robinson island.
We don't have to go into details here.
Women read far more fiction than men do, and spinning
stories into which women can channel their sexual fantasies
makes for a whole genre of literature.
Mind you, to indulge in some fantasies doesn't mean that
there is a serious desire to turn them into reality. Most
women who can be aroused by stories about them being served
by a group of men would balk at a proposal to have such a
setting actually implemented. They WILL refuse even if they
may have whispered "I want" when such a setting was
verbally fantasized about while enjoying sexual intercourse
(with just one man, that is). It's not only that women may
be better capable to differentiate between fantasies and
reality.
It's also understandable that in an undisturbed situation
(when being together with just one man), a woman may, in
her fantasies, be open for the thrill of the idea of being
served by several men, while avoiding the complications
that such an endeavor would result in when tried in real
life.
By Serge Kreutz
Version 2.2, Munich, 17. February 2010