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By Sam Zanahar (2010)
The basic idea of this article applies equally to women: the quality of our love and sex partners depends on our own sexual market value, and our own sexual market value does not only depend on us, but also on our environment (most importantly, in which part of the world we base ourselves).
In any arena, in which our sexual contacts do not depend on what we can take (by means of coercion), but on what we are given (by means of consent), our sexual success rate will depend on two factors: the social conditions at the place where we are (including the rules), and on our sexual market value (our attractiveness ranking).
To evaluate where our chances are best to have either a high quantity (a concern primarily for men) or a high quality (the primary interest of women) of sexual contacts, we must not just look at the social conditions (and rules) that exist at certain locations, but also at how our individual attributes rank in comparison to the attributes of those people who are our competitors.
Factors that play a role in determining our sexual market value include a wide array of characteristics: our physical appearance, our ethnicity, material wealth, education, communication skills, and various others.
While in one location, our attributes my just give us an average sexual market value, and while our sexual market value may even be less than average in other locations, we may rank very highly at those locations that are most suitable for us.
Therefore, our most important decision is where to base ourselves.
In China, the sexual market value of a 30-year-old divorced woman with child is much lower than the sexual market value of a 30-year-old woman who has never been married, even if the divorced woman is more beautiful. In Western Europe, there would only be a slight difference, and if the divorced woman is more beautiful than her sexual market value will be higher than that of the never-married woman. Therefore, for a divorced woman in China, the most important decision may well be to seek a new partner, or husband, from Western Europe, not from China.
In Indonesia and the Philippines, the sexual market value of women with a rather dark complexion is considerably lower than that of women with a light complexion. But in Western Europe, men would admire the beautiful skin color of the darker woman, while not being attracted to the woman with the lighter skin color.
For men and women alike, to look different from the majority of the other people around can often mean a boost in sexual market value (but this will not always be the case).
On the other hand, to look the same as everybody else seldom provides an advantage.
I myself am a Caucasian male of average appearance, 6 feet tall, 83 kg in weight, with blond hair (which I wear long). I have briefly tried South America, which is supposed to be fun. I found the percentage of real beauties among the women rather low, but apart from that, I did not generate much attention among the women, not the beautiful ones, and not even among those which I did not consider beautiful enough as a girlfriend or potential wife.
Unlike in many parts of Asia, in South America, where many people are of entirely or partial European ancestry, I'm not an attraction because I would be ethnically different from locals.
On the other hand, in East and South Asia, or in sub-Saharan Africa, it is obvious at the first glance that I am ethnically different from the local majority.
As mentioned above, in some parts of the world, being ethnically different can be an advantage, while in others, it can be the opposite. It usually is an advantage for Caucasian males and for East Asian and Southeast Asian females.
I have traveled a lot before I settled in Southeast Asia.
As a Caucasian man, I personally would have preferred Southeast Asia between 1953 and 1980, rather than between 2001and 2007, but I didn't have much say over the timing of my birth.
At least I didn't waste much of my adult life in Western Europe, or, for that matter, any other part of the world which would have been worse for relationships of love and sex (I am not interested in solely sexual relationships; without the component of love, an important element is lacking).
Alas, Southeast Asia is not Southeast Asia. Or, in more conventional language: Southeast Asia isn't the same wherever you go. You can have it Buddhist, Islamic, or Christian. Burma, Thailand, Cambodia, Malaysia, and Vietnam all use different alphabets.
As a man, your female partner can be Tamil brown, Chinese yellow, or anything in between (I admit that for all diversity, no green or blue human race here).
Most of all, you can be in different countries, or even different parts of one country, where, for a foreign male, the chances of relationships of love and sex will be vastly different. In some parts of Southeast Asia, a foreign man's options could just be prostitutes (I never considered this for myself), while in others, he could become the boyfriend of a high school girl, even if he is 20 years older than she.
Some countries are not a good choice for foreign men because of their social or political or religious orders. Others are a good choice because of, or in spite of, their social or political or religious orders. Sometimes, the best destinations are those of which few people assume that they would be worthy of much attention. And sometimes, conventional wisdom is correct in suggesting that one gives some countries, or some parts of some countries, a wide miss.
This site provides advice for men and for women on how to optimize their chances for the best success in affairs of love and sex. From men, we either collect a membership fee, or require translations (or specific information on some countries on which we don't have enough). Our advice for women is free, though we may request the translation of articles if the advice requested is extensive.
The information we provide for men primarily is of the practical kind: where their chances for sexual success is greatest.
This kind of knowledge is hard to extract from searches on Google or Amazon, online or from (mostly outdated) printed sources.
Yes, there are guides for men who seek prostitutes. But our articles are not about prostitutes. We are entirely not interested in prostitutes. The information we provide is about local girls who are not prostitutes; it's about having girlfriends, or about seducing married women, or about being a girl's first man.
In some countries, or parts of some countries, the chances of foreign men are excellent. At other destinations, they are lousy. You can learn about this by being some five years on the move, and spending tens of thousands of euro, and wasting a lot of time.
You could also take a shortcut and become a member of this site.
The amazing thing is that of all decisions you can make about having a proper sexual lifestyle, the right choice of location carries the most weight.
Whether you will enjoy having new girlfriends regularly only depends to some 20 percent on attributes that are personal (looks, appearance, charm, age, intelligence). To a full 80 percent, it depends on infrastructural aspects. And the most important infrastructural aspect is to be at a location where you as a European or American man are so highly welcome, and carry such a high sexual market value, that local girls are attracted to you in large numbers.
While most of our information is geared towards white European or American men, we do have very specific recommendations for men of African descent, and some recommendations for Chinese, Japanese, or Korean men.
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