I make a living from giving advice to men from rich, Western, industrialized nations who hunt for sexual adventures in poor Third World countries.

To the contrary, my advice to young women in poor Third World countries is free. Unfortunately, not many of them will read it, because they don't speak English and/or don't have Internet access, and if they do, then, unfortunately, their interest will rather be in soap opera stars than philosophy.

About eighty percent of all young men in modern Third World cities have nothing. Most of all, no money. No own home. And usually no job.

But raging testosterone, and a strong urge to mate.

And one more thing they have in abundance: time. Time, for example, to flirt girls.

Life is difficult for most growing-up daughters in the large modern cities of Third World countries. They live in crowded family homes, often with plenty of sisters and brothers. Everybody around them, and they themselves, know that the only appropriate path for them is to find a decent husband. Somebody with the means to support a family, with a home, a job, and a "responsible" character. At the same time, young women in Third World countries are often closely guarded. Fathers and brothers are all too aware that on every corner, there is a young man who wouldn't mind the opportunity.

Therefore, the dilemma of young women in Third World cities is one of double restrictions: they don't have as many opportunities to mingle with young men as do young women in Western countries, and the number of "qualified" young men is a very small percentage indeed.

The typical pressure of parents is for her to become the wife of a man who puts her in the position to support the parents in old age. In short: to marry a rich man. Or at least: to marry upward. But to marry upward isn't only a material imperative; it's also a question of general success. If neighbors already can't compete by comparing the makes of their cars, they at least can through comparing whose daughter got the better husband.

But simple arithmetic proves that when some 80 percent of all young men are not "qualified", no 100 percent of young women can marry upward.

When in the frame of mind to resign to the fact that a rich spouse will likely not come her way, a young woman in a Third World city, will typically lower her expectations: if a dream man will not be available, then at least he should be a "responsible" man. One who is willing to work, even if it isn't in an ideal job, and who brings his salary home (instead of spending it with friends).

Young men in modern Third World cities know what young women want to hear. Because only by uttering all the right words will they ever land a lay: "I love you. Of course I already had girlfriends. But you are different. You are the first girl I really love. And the only thing I hope for is to be your husband until I die. But I have no money. Not even a job. But I would take any job that is available to support my wife and my family. Because for me, all that counts is my wife and my family. And all of this because of you."

Of course, what actually is in his mind rather sounds like this: "How long and how much will I have to talk until I can fuck you? Why are you so damned difficult? How many times will I have to tell you that I love you until you will let me have it?"

A young woman always has one trump card. He wants in. When the card is played, she can't play it a second time. A woman who has granted intercourse once cannot hold a man if she refuses it the next time. Furthermore, in a typical Third World modern city setting, the longer they carry on, the more the balance will be tilted in the young man's favor. His sexual interest will decline. He will be less inclined to make good on his promises. What was that, about taking any job to earn some money? In a typical Third World metropolis, the longer they carry on without getting married, the slimmer the chances that they actually will marry. In a typical Third World metropolis, jobs for young men are hard, and not very well paid. It's easier to hang around, to flirt with girls, and to borrow money from the one, one has already laid (and who hopes that he will marry her anyway).

The brothels of modern Third World cities are populated by women who have fallen for a young man's sweet words, who may have been officially married or who, more likely, may have just run away with a young, so-called "husband", and who have been abandoned after having given birth to a child. My educated guess is that most of the women in the brothels of modern Third World cities don't fit the pattern that makes headlines in the Western press: they were not abducted from their parents' homes and sold into prostitution.

My advice to young women in Third World cities may seem overly conservative, but it's the advice I would give to my own daughters in large Third World cities: Play your most valuable trump card wisely. If you are courted by a poor young men, don't let him have it until he has entered an official, parent-approved marriage with you. The risk that otherwise, you may end up with a child but no committed male partner is just too great.

You can take certain risks if the young man who courts you is not the common no-money, no-job type. Which doesn't mean that you should let any rich man have it just like that.

If a Western man comes along, well, if he is willing to marry you, or shows commitment, that would be a nice catch. And if you have a child with him, even outside of formal wedlock, he will probably be more likely to support you and the child than a rich local man who will be far more accustomed to the fact that he can lay many young women, and even impregnate them, without later having to provide support (the girl gambled and lost)

No, by and large, it's not pretty to be a poor young woman in a large Third World city. So, my advice is to prepare yourself for the option of staying single. You may be better off than with a run-of-the-mill poor Third World man.

European and American men who come to Asia for sexual gratifications typically have little awareness of the Asian hierarchy of sexual market value, and of how deeply ingrained it is in Asian societies. Much more than in Europe or North America, sexual market value in Asia depends on factors other than beauty in women and age in men.

For women, a major aspect is sexual freshness. Throughout Asia, the highest sexual market value is attached to virgins from age 15, who are living with their parents and so far have only gone to school. In many Asian societies, their sexual market value is so high that they are normally available only to young men who are willing to go for a marriage, supported by both families.

As girls grow older, their sexual market value declines, even if the keep on staying with their parents (and remain virgins).

In comparison to 18-year olds who go to school and live with their parents, 18-year olds who no longer go to school, but work, or those who live in apartments in big cities, whether they work or go to school, have a lower sexual market value, as their freshness is questionable.

There is a very definite fall in the sexual market value of women who have been married and now are divorced or widows. And there again is a steep decline when they have given birth.

But among these, those who have work and an orderly income are still regarded higher than those who have no job, and whose only choice is to rely on finding a man to help make ends meet.

Prostitutes anywhere in Asia have the lowest sexual market value, though those whose virginity is on the block can ask for a high price once. It only takes a few weeks for their sexual market value to drop sharply.

Obviously, younger prostitutes get more customers, and ask for higher prices, but prostitutes are prostitutes, and even just as girlfriends (not talking about wives), their sexual market value is at the bottom of the scale.

Now enter Western men into the equation. In Western societies, especially in Europe, the sexual market value of women is less hierarchical. What counts in Europe is a beautiful face, and a sexy body. The age of a woman plays less a role, and as long as she doesn't have an infectious disease from it, it matters less how promiscuous she has been.

Furthermore, Europeans typically think that in an ideal match, the woman is some two to seven years younger than the man. This means that even women in their forties can still expect a sexual partnership if they aim at men in their fifties, and they could even end up with a reasonably wealthy one.

You'll have to look for a long time in Asia to find a rich man in his fifties marrying a woman in her forties. Rich Asian men in their fifties will marry young women in their twenties.

For in Asia, not only does the sexual market value of women (but not of men) relate strongly to their age and the degree of sexual inexperience; the sexual market value of men also is often determined simply by his economic status. For this reason alone, older European men will always find their sexual market value increased if they move to Asia, while older Asian women always experience an increase in sexual market value when they move to a Western country.

Divorced Asian women in their forties, when they stay in Asia, have either made their luck previously and then can be with a man who values the opportunity to marry a rich woman, or they will have to be content with a low-class male, or they stay unattached.

In a number of Asian countries with comparatively high divorce rates, Western men have a very easy time making live-in arrangements with local women... who all are divorcees, or widows, or have otherwise (been) separated from their husbands.

Western men in partnerships with local women in these countries often have the wrong impression that it is rather accidental that their women have been in previous marriages, and they think that in principle, they could have found single girls or women, too. But they are wrong: in these countries, where they can easily find a divorcee as partner, they would have a very hard time, indeed, to qualify for a previously unmarried woman.

I don't mind seeing other Western men with local divorcees, or even wit ex-prostitutes. But my personal choice, definitely, are young women who have not been previously married.

Yes, one can go for previously unmarried women in Asia (who definitely are not prostitutes), if one knows where to go to. The member area provides definite information about what to realistically aim for in different countries.

People in rich North American and European societies often wrongly believe that because Islam is a religion that gives women fewer rights than men, women would be natural associates in anti-Islamic moves. However, empirical data, both in Christian and in Muslim societies clearly shows that overall, women are more in favor of religion than men, and even women who are not that religious themselves typically don't mind if their husbands are religious. Likewise, my personal experience is that you can ask a young woman in any Third World country whether she would prefer a husband who is rather religious, or one who is not religious, and you will get answers that are heavily in favor of the first option.

The assumption is that men who are religious will likely be more responsible towards their wives and children, will be less likely to drink or gamble, or to maltreat weaker members of their environment. Most of all, they will more likely be faithful.

Women in many Islamic societies prefer the implementation of religious rules, even though this will curb many of their rights. The point is: the implementations of religious rules will also curb the opportunities of their husbands for extramarital sex, as there won't be nightclubs, bars, brothels, or mistresses. This is: if the Islamic society is rich enough to police the implementation of Islamic rules. Because Saudi Arabia is richer than Morocco, it is a safe bet to assume that the implementation of Islamic rules is stricter in the first country. Obviously, though, zealotism can replace material resources to some extend (as was the case in the Taliban's Afghanistan), a general rule of thumb is that upholding law and order costs material resources, so that the poorer a society, the greater the tendency towards entropy.

Some readers will be quick to point out examples where the above theories don't apply. Yes, there will be statistical oddities, and yes, the above is only a rule of thumb. Many other factors play a role in determining the fabric of human interaction in any Third World city, and some of these factors are discussed, in a very practical manner, in the member area.